Today on my way to work I heard an interesting segment on NPR about rituals. One sentence out of the broadcast reminded me of a book I read, Emotional Recovery After Natural Disasters. They were talking about a study done recently on how rituals were important in our lives and the one sentence that stood out said that completing rituals after a loss can make a person feel better (which everyone facing a large loss needs). It was similar to advice given in this very good book by Ilana Singer who started counseling disaster survivors following the 1991 Oakland Hills fire.

It is a book I highly recommend to every disaster survivor. Even if you can't face reading an entire book yourself you can assign one of those really helpful friends and family members to read it for you and tell you about it over lunch (or a series of lunches). It will help you and your friend both understand what you're going through.

The two reviews on Amazon are both glowing as well as this blog post that I recently found. The wrap up of the NPR broadcast I heard (along with a video of a Google Hangout) can be found HERE. Enjoy!

If you feel like you need help, the author offers counseling anywhere in the world via the phone. You can contact her at


Inspirational Quotes

To be upset over what you don't have is to waste what you do have.

Ken S. Keyes, Jr.


You guys are a godsend. I wanted to thank you for your assistance and support in the rebuild of my home from the Freeway Complex Fire in Nov 2008. We have moved back and my family could not be happier, many of my neighbors are still struggling to rebuild their homes. I don’t know what I would have done without your help during those first few months. 

2008 Freeway Fire Complex Survivor, Yorba Linda CA